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You never reach your goals — only the by-products

You never reach your goals — only the by-products

The idea of achieving goals? It’s kind of a myth. What we actually live with are the by-products along the way.

We spend so much time and energy chasing after some ideal finish line, we forget all the things we gain while simply moving forward. And those side effects—they’re often more meaningful than whatever we thought we wanted.

Most people chase the wrong things

I see it every day at the gym. Some folks come in wanting to bulk up. Others want to look good, feel seen, maybe flirt a little. A few just need a mental break. Then there are those, like me, showing up for their future selves.

People think they’re there for six-packs. But what they walk away with is mental clarity, structure, a sense of control. The mistake? Thinking muscles are the prize. More often, they’re just a bonus.

And it’s not just the gym. It’s work, relationships, businesses. We chase specific outcomes and miss how the process quietly reshapes us. The journey does its own work—whether we realize it or not.

The by-products are the real wins

I’ve hit the gym five days a week for over 3.5 years now. I go to untangle my thoughts, to invest in the 70-year-old version of me. I don’t care much about looking pumped—but that shows up anyway. That’s the by-product.

You aim to make money, and you end up more confident. You start a business and learn patience. You meditate for peace, and you build mental resilience.

Funny thing? These by-products are usually what people notice about you. Your calm energy. Your grit. Your routines. You didn’t aim for those. You just kept showing up.

Goals always move further

Hit one goal, and a new one appears. You climb a mountain only to spot a taller peak beyond it. That’s how it goes.

This endless chase can blur everything else. You get so focused on what’s next, you don’t see what you already have.

It creates a low-level dissatisfaction. You cross a finish line, celebrate briefly, then start running again. Without pausing to see the by-products, you always feel like you’re lagging.

The real value is in slowing down

The only way to notice the good stuff is to slow down. Breathe. Take stock. Look at your life with clear eyes.

You probably have more than you think: family who cares, a working body, your own ideas, fresh air, small wins. Stuff you never put on a goal list, but somehow received.

Sometimes we’re living a version of the life we once hoped for—we just forgot to realize it. Slowing down isn’t a step back. It’s how you finally catch up to yourself.

Gratitude unlocks even more

Here’s what I’ve learned: life doesn’t hand over the good stuff when you demand it. But when you keep going—and when you appreciate what you already have—it tends to give you more.

There’s something my family says: you’ll think you have a thousand problems… until you get just one health scare. Then it all shifts.

Gratitude resets your lens. You stop waiting for "someday" and actually enjoy "today." That tiny change? It transforms everything.

So slow down. Take it all in. Thank life for the unexpected wins. Then keep going—and let the by-products keep surprising you.

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