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Discipline vs Motivation: The Love-Fear Spectrum of Action

Discipline vs Motivation: The Love-Fear Spectrum of Action

Discipline beats motivation, but love wins all. Our actions are driven by two big emotions: love and fear.

The Two Sides of Motivation

When you’re working on a cool software project that solves a real world problem, you’re operating from love. This intrinsic motivation is exciting. Compare that to a 9-5 job done just to maintain a lifestyle – here fear of losing financial security is the main driver.

Personal Experience: Enterprise Sales Journey

My own experience with enterprise sales is a perfect example of this internal conflict. I’m good at building and selling software products but enterprise sales felt like a soul-sucking experience. Long, boring meetings. Trying to convince dispassionate stakeholders about a solution they barely understood.I committed to enterprise sales for a full year. Surprisingly I did well. I closed high-ticket deals multiple times. But something was missing – the joy, the excitement was absent.

The Courage to Choose Love

Despite financial success I made a big decision. I stopped doing enterprise sales. Was I leaving money on the table? Absolutely. But I got back something far more valuable – my life’s enjoyment.This wasn’t about being weak. It was about being intentional. I realized I wasn’t acting out of love but out of fear of missing out on potential revenue.

Experimentation: The Way to Authentic Choices

Never decide without trying. Yoda’s wisdom is true: “Do or do not, there is no try”. But I interpret this differently. Trying means fully immersing yourself, not half-heartedly attempting.By fully trying enterprise sales I got clarity. My gut feeling confirmed what my rational mind suspected – this wasn’t my path.

Comfort and Growth

Doing things out of love can trap you in a comfort zone. Growth requires pushing boundaries. But that doesn’t mean forcing yourself into perpetual discomfort.The sweet spot is intentional discomfort – choosing challenges that align with your broader personal and professional goals.

The Decision Framework

  1. Try it fully
  2. Listen to your internal response
  3. Are you motivated by love or fear
  4. Choose consciously
  5. Be willing to pivot

Discipline is important but shouldn’t feel like a permanent torture. When discipline is in love it’s effortless mastery.

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