Being Down is Normal – Even for Optimists

Life knocks us all down and that’s okay.
Feel Your Feelings
Humans don’t process like machines. Your brain releases cortisol in tough situations. Research shows this biological response helped our ancestors survive. Instead of fighting it, accept these natural reactions.
Create a Recovery Timeline
Set a specific time frame to feel bad. Research shows people who give themselves 24-48 hours to feel bad about a situation recover faster than those who try to suppress their feelings immediately. Schedule your comeback date and stick to it.
Follow the Parent Method
Treat yourself like you would treat your child during tough times. Parents offer comfort first, then guidance, then encouragement to try again. Apply this 3 step approach to your own setbacks: comfort yourself, analyze objectively, create an action plan.
Build Your Resilience Habit
Top performers in sports and business use specific techniques to bounce back from failures. Start with 5 minutes of deep breathing. Write down 3 things you learned from the situation. Take one small action towards your goal within 24 hours of the setback.
Reset Your Mind
Professional athletes have a “reset ritual” between points or plays. Create your own: find a quiet space, acknowledge how you feel, list 3 things you can do right now, focus on the smallest one first.